Tuesday, May 24, 2011

When will the eternal family love triangle end?

The most common cause of homicides since time immemorial has been money or sex.

Shakespeare, Marlowe and many other dramatists dealt with revenge as a popular subject.

Sir Arthur Connon Doyle of Sherlock Holmes fame also dealt with principally the three themes of money, revenge and sex in his adventures.

A scrutiny of the revenge-based dramas and novels gives us an indication that the revenge also was for a sex-related murder.

Hence, we get only two basic causes for murder of individuals.


The term money includes gold and real estate. The assassin wants to capture some money power either directly from the victim or through inheritance.

Murder and seize the money (or) seize the money and kill the victim to prevent him report to the police and testify in the witness box

*Husband and father-in-law/mother-in-law killing the daughter-in-law to get rid of her, so that the husband can remarry with greater dowry (quite common in India).

*Husband suspecting wife's fidelity.
*Alcoholic husbands asking wives for money and murdering them when refused.
*Wives murdering the alcoholic husbands, unable to bear torture by them.
*Wife and paramour killing the husband to get rid of him.
*Wife and husband killing the paramour when he becomes too troublesome.
*Husband and his concubine killing the wife, to get rid of her.

Family-lives get disrupted whenever one of the spouses is murdered leaving children to catastrophic nightmares. Motherless children or fatherless children will have emotional limps which will have serious bearing on the personality development of the child.

Cheating by one of the spouses seems to be main cause for domestic unrest apart from alcoholism. The system of marriage prevailing in societies all over the world do not allow 'permissiveness'. A little permissiveness and transparency goes a long way in building mutual confidence.

Cheating while continuing the family relationship with the spouse sounds somewhat venomous. This continuing in the family may be for protecting the child's future.

(to continue).

Friday, October 19, 2007


Gist of the undernoted Sanskrit verse is: A person learns

25% from his teacher;
25% from his own intellectual effort;
25% from celibasy;
25% in course of time.

From teacher, we can infer: schools, colleges and Universities.
From own intellectual efforts : planned studies.
From celibacy: In those days of yore, it was mandatory for students to follow celibacy. Not sure what is learnt from celibacy! Quantifying it is also apparently difficult.

25% in course of time
This is very important. One may learn even 50% after marriage. Then, by that time, it may be too late.

Achaaryaath paadam aadatthe
Paadam sishya swamedhayaa
Paadam sa brahmachaaribhya
Sesham kaala kramena cha

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Difference between a community prayer and a self-improvement session

Turkey has done a good thing by reducing the frequency of Namaz (Islamic prayers) from the present five per day to three per day .

There is a dire need to eliminate community religious prayers altogether in all religions.

It is not only the question of paucity of time, that haunts us, but also the danger of community prayer houses becoming breeding houses for terrorism or else money spinning super markets.

In lieu of the community prayers, we can have daily "self-improvement family sessions".

At present chiding of children is taking place on dining tables or before the TVs.

Parents realise little that it is counter-productive to stir the emotions of children while they eat their food.

The difference between a community prayer and a "self-improvement Session" is worth recognising.

Prayer depends on and urges for God's grace.

Self-reformation Session is a SWOT (Strength, Weakness, Opportunity, Threat Analysis).

By undergoing SWOT analysis and Self-Improvement review, a person can go for reconstruction of character, habits, personality and skills.

Family members constructively help in this process. There will not be mutual recriminations.

Monday, September 11, 2006

Use of unique numbers as names

In the Euramstranz (Europe, N America, Australia and Newzealand) there is apparently a shortage of first and middle names. Consequently, we find millions of people possessing the same first/middle names.

What are the disadvantages of having few names available for christening children?

1. Limited choice.
2. Confusion to teachers while calling children.
3. Confusion among children while responding.
4. Lack of freshness.
5. Confusion for the Government in preparing voters' lists and citizens' registers.

If new names are to be searched and added what types of names we may add?

1. Secular (irreligious) names as far as possible.
2. Easy pronunciation
3. Meaningful names
4. Without bizarre or ugly meanings.

Will foreign names not be bizarre?

English language as a lingua franca (universal language) imported thousands of words from foreign languages, including non-European languages.

Initially names from foreign languages may appear to be strange. But people get accustomed.

What are the difficulties in naming babies after leaders, sports persons and stars>

1. After the Bolshavik revolution, many people named their children as "Lenin, Stalin, Marx". After the collapse of Sovient Union, people carrying the names might have felt uncomfortable.

2. Children named after film stars and cricketers may face social ostracism if those stars become bankrupt or get involved in crimes.

3. If children named after great leaders become criminals, it becomes unbearable.

What awkwardness meaningful names can cause?

1. A girl named "Lakshmi" (Goddess of wealth) may end up as a bigger.
2. A man named "Vivek" (Wisdom) may die of drug poisoning.

Should we name children "Kiki" (some meaningless sound)?

That will be more awkward.

Should babies be given citizen numbers lasting a life time?

1. Last four digits or three digits of the numbers can be used for calling.
2. The number will be absolutely unique.